The infamous “Friend-zone” is almost as equivalent to death when looking in the romance world. It’s a place where you don’t want to be put in, especially when you have other intentions. At a young age, teenagers are exposed to this hideous place where is placed in it, it’s when you become the laughing stock of your group. What I’ve learned throughout the years is that no matter how bad the friend-zone is, it’s honestly a lesson learned in life for someone in attempt to find someone they want to be with.

Middle School. High School. College. University. The times where someone will have 90% of their social life between the ages of 12-25. Girls will meet guys and guys will meet girls. A guy will be attracted to many people and same with a girl. Most likely, two people start talking and maybe interests will grow for at least one party. At that point, you might question, “What should I do about this?” You can be either the one who wants a more concrete relationship like possibly dating or just a hook-up or maybe you want to be the one who just wants to be friends. Or maybe, you want to be the one who doesn’t want to do anything and just let time fly. The possibilities vary and honestly, different outcomes are in question. What people assume though is that once you have feelings for someone and the same feelings aren’t reciprocated, you are at an all-time low. The thing is, for the most part, it’s not intentional for that to happen. The issue is that a lot of the times, someone won’t reveal his or her intentions at the appropriate time. Actually, let me clarify that. Normally, both parties don’t reveal his or her intentions to their respective partner. As a result, if they don’t match, the one who has higher expectations is seen as the one at a bigger fault. If the intentions were said before the relationship escalated, maybe no one would get hurt in the end. Or even if they were said at the early stage, someone would end up discouraged. That’s life and you can’t control someone’s actions, especially when it comes to their feelings romantically. The thing is if you know that the person you are talking to has bigger intentions than you and are leading them on, that’s just wrong. Yes, there are situations where you don’t know his or her intentions but some people sadly will play the person like a puppet so that they have something to talk about or to feel entitled since they have someone chasing them. First, if they reveal their feelings and you just play along even though you know you don’t have feelings, just be straight up and tell him or her. Don’t play along because in the end, nothing good comes out of it. If you don’t know your intentions however, let them know. Because they might be thinking for you and that ins’t always the best case scenario either. The friend-zone is honestly a hard topic to write about because I don’t want to force things upon people but I do believe in some situations, there is white and black and people are honestly not treated for what they are putting out as product. In contrary, people also need to understand boundaries and how to take “no” as an answer. Maybe that can be a future topic. Who knows? But to end this blog, maybe try to find what you want and once you have that, let the other party aware because who honestly wants to see the other person hurt in the end?