Part 3 of 3

Sorry for the delay for Part 3 but I would be lying if this wasn’t the most relatable for me. We had earlier looked at parallel and rational partners and learned how both are not the most common types of partners, however, it’s able to work for many individuals. Relationships tend to evolve around some sort of equality as a 50-50 relationship is impossible. Maybe one date I will pay, the next my partner will or I’ll choose where we go to eat and you will choose the movie we watch are some situations where there’s no physical balance to prove equality but both parties are benefited. As a result, the last type of partner that we will look at are equal partners.

As you might assume by definition, equal partners are those who orchestrate their relationship through a balance of equal choice making. That is true for the most part but there’s more into it. What people might not know is someone who’s identified as an equal partner wants their partner to be independent in addition to themselves being independent. It might be obvious to some but not all but being independent gives a greater chance of equality as being dependent will lead to automatically a one-sided relationship. Equal partners aren’t perfect, they accept their partner’s flaws as much as they accept their own flaws because no-one is perfect. Equal partners also tend to do their own thing a lot as they are independent but do know that if they ever need something, their significant other is always there for support. They don’t create shadows for one another and if so, any of the two are easily capable of ending the relationship into pursuit of them becoming their own person.

I always believed that these types of partners were the most likely to last because of that level of independency each partner has. Yes, for sure there’s going to be conflicts and disagreements but no relationship is good if it’s one-sided. I honestly prefer an argument happening because someone feels as if their opinion isn’t being listened to as suppose to just being a yes-man or woman. Every relationship should be about choices from both partners, male or female. To end it off, I appreciate all of you for the support through these little post as a good friend of mine gave me these to look at over a year ago and even though I’m only posting them now, I always felt that they were all interesting in their own ways to learn about!

Part 2 of 3

Now that you’ve understood what are parallel partners, let’s look at another type of partners but this time, stepping away from emotions. Emotions play a huge factor in romance or in any time of relationship because too much emotion can create stress for one person and too little emotion can show careless traits from an individual. In relationships, especially a successful one, there needs to be a compromise between these things in order to work out. Today, emotions (or lack-of) will be the subject when we look at rational partners.

To clarify, rational partners are individuals who believe that emotions don’t have any influence on behaviour. These individuals tend make decisions and choices based on intelligence and facts rather than emotions and subjective opinions. What people may mistaken this for is how rational people don’t have emotions because they do. They can feel pain mourning after a passing of a loved one or show happiness when they see the love of their life by their side like any other person. What makes them unique is how they think. Rational partners like a structure, especially during discussion so when a subjective opinion pops out, the possibilities of ways things can go are endless. To them, it creates conflict for the most part. A rational based relationship can work but what it lacks is a large amount of sensibility, especially if both partners are rational. It may be a good thing if both individuals are rational because there will no missing link.

To summarize, rational partners have emotions, they just tend to think based on facts rather than emotions. For them, it works. Every relationship isn’t perfect and one major flaw in this type of relationship is the lack of emotions when rationality is in the equation. It doesn’t mean the relationship won’t work, it’s just one flaw and that one flaw shouldn’t take anything thing way from the partners making the relationship work. Thanks for reading and part 3 will be up later this week so keep an eye on that!

Part 1 of 3

Depending on your partner for life, willing to live and die for that person, isn’ that what partners in romance are about? Well I’m here to tell you that the statement above is correct, however, it’s not always black and white. Not every relationship is the same, not the same intimacy is shared by everyone and as long as both partners are okay with it, it’s their relationship and story to tell.

Parallel partners are the type of partners that might have the general population question their relationship. Intimacy is key in romance and these partner can live without it with no problems. How you may ask? By how they lived way before they were in a relationship, through independence. Independence is key for them because for most of these individuals, there was a point where they were alone and had to climb out of a hole alone. It might be easy for someone to say to grow out of that but not for some. Even in a relationship, they might keep the same feels as when they were alone. They might accept someone in their life romantically but doesn’t mean they are entitled to follow society’s standards of it. Again, it’s not so black and white so let me explain. These individuals don’t need to embrace society’s standards of a relationship. Yes, these partners do care for one another but they don’t necessarily need to prove it every second of their lives. As different as it may sound, to society, they aren’t meant for each other. But that’s the thing, society doesn’t see what happens behind closed doors. They might not need to be next to each other all the time, might not live together, or even see like a couple outside their homes but they share the same believes of love and show it to each other a way that’s indescribable. Lastly, it’s shown that relationships that don’t last are due to a lack of intimacy or a one-sided relationship. With parallel partners, they avoid those problems all together by how they interact with one another.

This may be short as the percentage of couples identify themselves as parallel partners are less than 8% but it was one of those topics in which I’ve known about for quite some time and wanted to learn more about even though it’s quite limited. Like I’ve said, every relationship is different and with that being said, the next types of partners that will be looked at will be rational partners. Hope you enjoyed learning and reading this!